One minute you’re fine. The next you’re crying uncontrollably. You wonder how you ended up here. You think about all the things you did wrong. You feel ashamed, alone, uncertain.

Then you’re surprised by the waive of anger you’re suddenly feeling. You’re mad at your ex. You’re mad at yourself. And you’re even made at life. You ask why and how on a daily basis. You feel completely off-balance.
You’re grieving and we’ve all been there.

The relationship might have ended but the aftermath lingers.

Coping with a breakup or divorce is a roller coaster ride of emotions, full of highs and lows, and it’s important to strap yourself in safely for the ride.

Here are 4 healthy ways to help you get over the breakup.

  1. Go through the morning process.
    It’s important to feel and work through all the emotions that come with experiencing loss. This process includes, sadness, anger, guilt, and acceptance of your new reality.
  2. Learn Important Lessons.
    A major aspect of moving on after a breakup is learning the valuable lessons from the relationship. It’s important to be aware of the negative dynamics that you contributed to the relationship. Self reflect and work on understanding your issues and triggers that affected you.
  3. Talk it out.
    It’s important to talk it out and process feelings with friends, family or a professional. You don’t want to avoid your emotions that could ultimately prevent you from moving past them. It’s important to gain clarity and understand why the relationship didn’t work out and that you will be better off without your former partner.
  4. Take care of yourself.
    Try to avoid mindless eating and not to turn to alcohol as a coping mechanism. Be active, spend time with friends and family and do things you enjoy to help you through the healing process.

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