The holiday season often brings stress and an array of demands. But with some practical tips you can prevent holiday stress and enjoy the holidays with your partner.
It’s easy to get caught up in our day-to-day lives and to forget about the importance of affection in our relationships. Affection is a natural reflection of the love between you and your partner and showing affection and warmth to one another is key to strengthening your relationship.
You talk, and talk, and talk, and… nothing. Why won’t your partner listen? You’re upset and you have a point to make. So why is he/she closed off and unreachable?
Please see below for an excellent article about marriage advice from couples who have been married for 10 plus years.
One minute you’re fine. The next you’re crying uncontrollably. You wonder how you ended up here. You think about all the things you did wrong. You feel ashamed, alone, uncertain.
One of my specialties is premarital counseling and I always recommend that my couples deal with issues and ask plenty of questions before they get married. This can prevent arguments and disappointments down the line. The New York Times article by Eleanor Stanford "13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married" is excellent and designed to spark honest and open discussions for couples about expectations, children, in-laws, finances and their future plans.
You may be one of those lucky people with golden in-laws that appreciate you and kindly stay out of your private business. They don’t pressure you to do anything that goes against your own morals or house rules and they never ask you to do anything that would hurt your family relationships in any way.
I have counseled many couples throughout the years who have had major problems in their relationships because of unmet expectations. I agree with Derek Harvey in that having certain expectations can be a "silent killer of relationships.."
You’ve decided to part ways. Even though the decision was right for you, it wasn’t easy. It’s still not. Divorce is a process. The healing doesn’t happen overnight.
Please see below for an interesting article on "11 Rules on Marriage You Won't Learn in School." After reading the article I was inspired to share this practical advice.