You’re just so busy, busy … BUSY! The relationship you have with your partner is and should be more important than anything else in your life. However, due to the hustle and bustle of everyday life, you take your partner for granted. And before you know it, your needs aren’t being met, and neither are the needs of your partner.
As much as a couple in starry-eyed love may want to shout to each other and the world that money doesn’t matter, the truth is that finances become an issue, at some point or another, in all long-term relationships. Knowing this from the onset of a serious relationship will allow you to keep this particular issue under control before it grows into a big, ugly monster.
Resilience means being able to adapt to life’s stressors, misfortunes and challenges. Some people don’t respond well to stress and feel overwhelmed turning to alcohol, substance abuse and other unhealthy coping mechanisms. When you are resilient you are able to access your inner strength that helps you recover from a setback or adversity in your life.
As a couple therapist who has worked with many couples over the years on rebuilding their marriages after an affair, I highly recommend this recent article from the New York Times "The Hard Road Back From Infidelity" written by Jane Brody.
Breakups can be difficult depending on the length of the relationship and how serious it was. The thoughts and feelings that people generally experience may be feelings of loss, rejection, detection, sadness, anger and other feelings that are associated with the mourning process.
Thinking errors are irrational patterns of thinking that impair judgment and cause you to feel stressed and anxious. To break this unhealthy cycle, you need to learn how to identify your thinking errors and challenge them with logical and rational self talk. Our self-talk guides us on our perspective on life and the way we interact with others.
One of the best ways of understanding stress and preventing anxiety is to look at a model of emotional distress elaborated by psychologist Albert Ellis. He calls his model the ABC model, and it’s as simple as it sounds:
No matter how long you’ve been in a relationship, whether it’s three weeks or 20 years, if there’s one thing that just about everyone wants plenty of (and all healthy relationships need), it’s romance.