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As much as a couple in starry-eyed love may want to shout to each other and the world that money doesn’t matter, the truth is that finances become an issue, at some point or another, in all long-term relationships. Knowing this from the onset of a serious relationship will allow you to keep this particular issue under control before it grows into a big, ugly monster.
"It's Complicated" are stories on the sometimes frustrating, sometimes confusing, always engrossing subject of modern relationships.
One of my specialties is premarital counseling and I always recommend that my couples deal with issues and ask plenty of questions before they get married. This can prevent arguments and disappointments down the line. The New York Times article by Eleanor Stanford "13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married" is excellent and designed to spark honest and open discussions for couples about expectations, children, in-laws, finances and their future plans.
You may be one of those lucky people with golden in-laws that appreciate you and kindly stay out of your private business. They don’t pressure you to do anything that goes against your own morals or house rules and they never ask you to do anything that would hurt your family relationships in any way.
Money is often a major source of tension in relationships. Far too often couples break up over this. Many relationships could overcome the issue and end up in healthier relationships if they applied simply proven methods to address the problem.
Many of my couples often get concerned that after being in a relationship for more than six months they will lose the spark or romance with their partner. The romantic love stage usually fades within one year. But, it’s important to replace romantic love with emotional intimacy.
Money is often a major source of tension in relationships. Far too often couples break up over this. Recently, I have been working with a couple that is planning to get married next year. Money has been a source of stress in their relationship since they have different spending styles. They are working on learning how to prevent arguments and work through their differences in order to resolve financial conflicts. An effective way to address the problem is to discuss your money history and philosophy together.
One of the most important things I see in healthy relationships is the ability of both partners to take ownership of their responsibilities to themselves and each other. We all have issues, which can easily affect the dynamics of our relationship.
Prenuptials are increasingly growing more popular regardless of age and income. With the alarming reality that 50% of marriages end in divorce, people are anxious and want to ensure that they are safe in marriage. The result has been a steady increase in the number of couples drafting prenuptial agreements. However, it’s not necessarily an easy thing to arrange between partners. They can be quite tricky and lead to contention, even break-ups. A partner might feel the future is doomed even before they enter it.