Divorce and Breakup Counseling

Breakups can be difficult depending on the length of the relationship and how serious it was. The thoughts and feelings that people generally experience may be feelings of loss, rejection, detection, sadness, anger and other feelings that are associated with the mourning process.

One minute you’re fine. The next you’re crying uncontrollably. You wonder how you ended up here. You think about all the things you did wrong. You feel ashamed, alone, uncertain.

You’ve decided to part ways. Even though the decision was right for you, it wasn’t easy. It’s still not. Divorce is a process. The healing doesn’t happen overnight.

As everyone has probably realized Valentine’s Day is coming soon. Stores are packed with candies, jewelry, flowers, and cards. Seeing all those red and pink hearts can make a single guy or gal tremble in their shoes. Feelings of loneliness, and self-doubt can start to rise.

There’s not a day that goes by when I don’t find myself in a discussion in my counseling sessions that consists of someone looking for a little dating advice. After all, if there’s one thing that just about all of us can agree on, it’s that love is an important part of our life’s journey and being in a strong, secure and stable relationship can definitely make the trip just that much more special. 

Dating is annoying at times and can trigger our insecurities making it an extremely emotional process. It’s taxing to wait for the person to call or text us to let us know that they want to see us again, and that we passed their test so far. We become anxious, wondering if we will ever meet that special someone to share life with?

With spring finally approaching, I can’t wait to shed this heavy coat and start enjoying warmer days. The days are getting longer and I'm sure most of us who were stuck in the cold weather are looking forward to spending more time outdoors.

Betsy Writes, I've been alone for a big part of my life and haven't had much success in relationships. Recently I met a man who seemed perfect at first. We've now been together about 6 months and I'm starting to see flaws in him - things that I don't know if I can move past (he has trust issues, anger issues, etc.) However, I don't want to break up with him because I'm afraid I won't find anyone else. What should I do?