Rachel Moheban-Wachtel, LCSW | 352 7th Avenue, Suite 1111, New York, NY 10001 | 1-917-273-8836 | Chelsea, New York

Couples | Marriage Counseling

Couples/Marriage Counseling 

Has the romance and connection in your relationship been replaced with distance and frustration? Are you and your partner struggling to communicate and you are feeling that loneliness and anger has come to define your relationship? Perhaps you have the same arguments over and over again about money, children, household tasks, sex or family issues. Or maybe trust has been broken because of an affair and you don’t even feel that you know your partner anymore.

Do you want to find a way to feel safe and supported in your relationship and rekindle the connection that you once had with your partner?



Couples counseling can help you reconnect and make your relationship stronger

In a non-judgmental and safe place, I help couples work through negative dynamics and develop more empathy for each other. Communication increases as each partner learns to be more assertive and and vulnerable as they talk through sensitive topics and issues together.

In our work together I will guide you to work through unresolved conflict in order to prevent having the same fights over and over. You will find new ways to communicate so you can feel heard and get your needs met. Through counseling you can stop blaming each other and take ownership and responsibility.

The goal is to help you gain insight and awareness into reactions and behaviors, and change dynamics in your relationship. As dynamics shift and you start to experience your relationship differently, you can develop your physical and emotional intimacy.

Although couples counseling is most effective when it’s the start of contention and conflict, it’s never too late to seek help. Through couples/marriage counseling you can make decisions about rebuilding and improving your relationship, or going your separate ways.


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Is it possible to recover after an affair?

The foundation of a relationship is based on trust and respect and infidelity can damage the security and stability of your relationship. Affairs cause feelings of confusion, anger and deep hurt. They can also increase distance between partners. However, this doesn’t mean your relationship has to come to an end. It is possible to move past an affair with honesty, communication, and being open to forgiving your partner.

I have worked with many couples that were able to save their marriage after an affair. If you and your partner have decided that you are committed and want the relationship to work–counseling can be instrumental in helping you work through the affair.

Couples therapy allows you and your partner to process issues and feelings in a safe, non-judgmental place. You and your partner can begin to understand the affair and heal as you work through the grieving process and rebuilding the relationship.

Couples therapy takes time as you re-establish trust, get to know each other again and strengthen your bond. You and your partner have to be honest in order to make positive shifts and repair the relationship. Through the counseling process you can even strengthen your relationship and allow for an openness that you didn’t have before. 



What if the couples therapist takes sides?

This is a common concern. The believe my role of a couples therapist is to be non-judgmental, objective and allow each partner to share their reality and experience. Taking sides can hurt the relationship and it is not the therapist job to assign blame but, rather to help encourage honesty, empathy, communication and balance for the couple.

The therapist’s objective is to operate in the best interest of the relationship and taking sides will only hinder positive change and growth for the couple.


What if my partner doesn’t want to come to counseling?

It is not uncommon where one partner may not be interested and doesn’t want to participate in couples counseling. But counseling can be viable even if both partners don’t attend and participate. As you work on your own issues and reactions, this ultimately has a significant impact on the relationship. Often, when one person in a relationship makes noticeable changes, the other becomes more interested in changing too. Bringing your best self into the relationship can change the tone and interaction with your partner and can help move the relationship forward. 



Can Couples Counseling help work through the challenges found in Blended Families?

What is a blended family?A blended or stepfamily forms when you and your partner make a life together with the children from one or both of your previous relationships.” The process of forming a new, blended family can be a challenging and a difficult experience for everyone involved.

As you blend two families, differences in parenting, discipline, lifestyle, etc., can create contention between you and your partner. This can also become a source of frustration for the children. I work with partners to find common ground and agree on consistent guidelines about rules, and discipline with children. This shows the children that you and your partner intend to deal with issues as a team.



It’s important that you and your partner work on creating clear boundaries and communicate often and openly. Couples counseling can be instrumental in helping you and your partner establish trust that is crucial to creating a strong, cohesive blended family. 

For over 18 years I have helped hundreds of couples make significant changes, develop a stronger relationship foundation and reestablish connection. If you’re struggling in your relationship, I invite you to call 917-273-8836 for a complementary consultation to learn more about couples counseling and how I can help you.


Rachel is a skilled couple’s therapist and educator. You will learn practical and easy tools that you can start using right away to improve your relationship. You will understand what gets in the way of your having a fulfilling relationship and how to quickly abolish them so you are open to give and receive the love in your life.” L.S.


We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” Harville Hendrix



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