Do You Feel Stuck Because You and Your Partner Are Having The Same Fights Over and Over Again?

  • Do you feel that when things are good with your partner they are very good, but when they are bad they are very bad?
  • Do you feel easily triggered by your partner because of resentment that has built up?
  • Have romance and connection in your relationship been replaced with distance and frustration?
  • Do you rarely talk to one another at all—at least not in any meaningful way?
  • Has a betrayal of trust made you feel that you don’t even know your partner anymore?

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If you are struggling with relationship issues, attempting to connect with your partner may leave you feeling sad and lonely. As time goes on, you may feel more and more certain that things can’t continue this way—you cannot settle for a lifetime of tension and conflict.

You may also think back to the beginning of your relationship and long for the person you fell in love with. Perhaps it’s difficult to understand how you and your partner got here. What happened to the support and connection you used to share?

Almost All Couples Experience Conflict

Marriage Counseling in NYC with The Relationship Suite“We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship.” — Harville Hendrix

If your partnership currently feels very different than the one you envisioned for yourself, you might fear that the relationship is damaged. Like so many other couples dealing with arguments and silent treatments, you could fear that the relationship are damaged.

In truth, relationship issues are undeniably painful, but they are also extremely common. You are not alone.

All people learn about relationships from what we see and experience as we grow up. As we watch our family members navigate—or perhaps avoid—conflict, we learn how to interact with others. We also learn what to expect from relationships, as well as how to deal with difficult emotions.

For example, if a parent, was generally distant, but prone to exploding in anger at the first sign of conflict, you likely learned that conflict is dangerous—perhaps even physically. You might not always feel safe expressing your needs, thoughts and feelings. And, when your emotions inevitably build up, you might find yourself lashing out.

Maybe your partner had a similar upbringing. Or, perhaps they grew up with emotionally expressive parents. They might not understand why you don’t want to talk about your emotions. And so, as you try to navigate these very different ways of relating, you might be caught in a cycle of lashing out and shutting down.

Regardless of your specific ways of relating—and whether or not you’re completely aware of them—like all people, you have your unique relationship issues. And your partner has issues of their own. Sometimes, you both might be communicating from places of old hurt and pain rather than responding to what the other is actually saying. This can make maintaining a healthy adult relationship incredibly difficult.

You don’t have to stay stuck in these frustrating, hurtful patterns. By working with a skilled couples therapist, you can find healing and lasting intimacy.

Couples Therapy Can Help You Rebuild Your Connection

Marriage Counseling in NYC with The Relationship SuiteWe have helped hundreds of couples make significant changes, develop a stronger relationship foundation and re-establish connection. In a non-judgmental and safe place, you and your partner can work through negative dynamics and develop greater empathy for one another

We have extensive experience and training in various modalities such as: Imago and Emotionally Focused Therapy. These approaches are highly effective for helping couples deepen their connection. In our work together, we will guide you to work through unresolved conflict in a respectful, productive way.

In sessions, you and your partner can stop blaming each other and start understanding where the other is coming from. You can also find and practice new ways to communicate, to help you both feel heard when discussing sensitive issues.

As you and your partner learn to be both more assertive and more vulnerable with one another, you can start to develop practical solutions and a new sense of closeness.

The goal is to help you both gain insight into reactions and behaviors so you can transform the dynamics in your relationship. As dynamics shift and you start to experience your relationship differently, you develop greater physical and emotional intimacy.

Couples therapy is most effective at the start of conflict, but it is never too late to seek help. By working with an experienced relationship therapist, you will rebuild and strengthen your relationship.

You may have questions or concerns…

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What if the counselor take sides?

As a couple’s therapist, it’s my job to be non-judgmental and objective. I create a welcoming environment for each partner to share their reality and experience. Taking sides can hurt the relationship—and I am on your relationship’s side. So, rather than assign blame, I will encourage honesty, empathy, communication and balance.

What if my partner doesn’t want to come to counseling?

It is not uncommon for one partner to be uninterested in participating in couples counseling. But, counseling can be viable even if both partners don’t attend and participate.

As you work on your own issues and reactions in individual sessions, the changes you make can have a significant impact on the relationship. Often, when one person in a relationship starts shifting the tone of interactions, the overall tone of the relationship shifts. Or the other partner can become more interested in changing too.

The growth that results from therapy can help you present your best self to your partner, which helps move the relationship forward.

What if couples therapy makes us realize we want to break up?

Ultimately, how you and your partner move forward is always up to you. I am here to help heal your relationship, but I cannot tell you what to do.

As you discuss your deepest wants and needs, you might discover that it’s time to go your separate ways. Therapy can help you make this decision in a thoughtful, compassionate way. You can end your relationship amicably, which is valuable for every couple, but especially those with children. By learning more about yourself and how you operate in relationships, you can empower yourself to form healthy connections in the future.

If you’re struggling in your relationship, call 917-273-8836 or contact us for a complimentary consultation to learn more about couples and marriage counseling in NYC and how we can help you. We are currently providing Online/Virtual Video Counseling to our clients with HIPPA based platforms.

If you aren’t ready to get started with counseling you can check out our Online Couples Tool kit just so you can begin the process of learning strategies on how to communicate more effectively and deepen intimacy in your relationship. You can find more information about the Online Tool Kit HERE.

If you are interested in learning more about our Building Communication Skills Group for Couples  CLICK HERE.