Today’s topic is How to deal with depression in your marriage.

Gary writes: My wife and I have been fighting a lot lately. She went to the doctor recently and was told she had some issues with hormones, so whenever we get into a fight she says, “It’s just the hormones.” I want to support her but am having a hard time dealing with the constant arguments. Do you have any relationship advice?

When a woman is having issues with her hormones it simply means she is feeling more sensitive, raw and has less defenses to protect her from her emotions. However, you have every right to wonder how much of her mood swings are due to hormones or whether she is lashing out because something is bothering her.

I suggest you explore this by asking the following questions:

  • Is there something irritating you on a deeper level?
  • Is there anything that happened or was something said that you would like me to process/discuss with you?
  • How can I help to make you feel better?

Make sure that she doesn’t dismiss discussions because avoiding working through an argument can create resentment, which can fester and build up. It’s also not fair to you or healthy for your relationship if she is holding her feelings in and not sharing what is bothering her. There are also medical ways to help her feel more in control of her hormones that she can explore and try.

Thank you, Gary for sending in your question.

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