Are you struggling to move forward during or after a divorce?
Are you in the process of getting divorced or are recently divorced and feel deeply saddened?
Are you already divorced and having trouble moving forward?
Are you judging yourself and wondering if you could ever feel secure and have a healthy relationship again?
Many people struggle and experience significant challenges as they undergo separation or divorce.
What is Divorce Counseling?
Getting divorced is a hard process even if you are the one who initiates it. If you are the one who wants the divorce, you may be experiencing feelings of guilt, shame or regret. If your partner wants to end the marriage, you may feel angry, abandoned or betrayed. It’s not uncommon for both you and your partner to feel lonely, lost or scared. Divorce counseling allows you or you and your partner work on closure and experience the range of emotions from the ending and loss of the relationship/marriage.
It’s important to help you and your partner set ground rules for constructive ways to engage and get along when going through the divorce process. Trying to hold it all together and make important decisions during this challenging experience can sometimes feel like too much. This process allows you and your partner work on communication and learn healthy dialogue so you can move from contention to peaceful talks and negotiation.
It’s especially important to work together in a peaceful manner especially, if your children are involved. Children suffer when there is contention and divorce battles are difficult and chaotic. You may be worrying about how your children are handling the separation. Counseling can help you learn what is appropriate to share with them and how to best offer support your children.
You want your separation/divorce to be a collaborative process and co-parent together as you model for your children how to have peaceful negotiations and communication. Divorce counseling helps you and your partner to emotionally move forward and work on how to peacefully co-parent together.
Grieving the loss of a relationship.
Grief is a natural reaction to loss, and people who experience a breakup or divorce go through a grieving process. Allowing yourself to feel the pain of multiple losses of which include, loss of companionship, support and hopes plans and dreams can be intense and overwhelming.
Grieving is essential to the healing process. Breakups can be difficult depending on the length of time and emotional investment into the relationship. The thoughts and feelings that people generally experience may be rejection, sadness, anger, guilt and other feelings that are associated with the grieving process. I help clients going through the divorce process work through the mourning and healing process and get to a place of acceptance.
Learning important lessons from a breakup or divorce.
As you work on accepting a breakup and moving on, you need to understand what happened and acknowledge how you contributed both in a positive and negative way. The more you understand how the choices you made affected the relationship, the better you’ll be able to learn from your mistakes. The goal is to avoid repeating them in the future.
It is necessary to understand past relationships in order to be more prepared when you are ready to find love again. Once you are feeling more centered and focused on what you do want in a partner, and aware of the patterns in your past relationships, you may be ready for a new partnership. I help you through this process so you can know yourself better, feel wiser and attract a healthier partner.
Divorce therapy can help you move forward with more confidence.
Therapy is a safe place for you to identify, express and work through the intense feelings you may be experiencing when you are going through a divorce. I offer you support, guidance and help you figure out how to start rebuilding your life. You will learn how to cope through this difficult transition in your life. You can also learn how to better care for yourself and cope with this difficult transition in your life.
In working with many individuals who have been through a divorce, I understand the common issues and concerns related to this major life transition. I can help you identify your blind spots, as well as strengths and make your recovery process easier.