This week our question comes from Suzy, and she writes:
Dear Rachel, my boyfriend is an extremely jealous person and this causes a lot of unnecessary arguments. Do you have any suggestions for us on how I can deal with this?
Jealousy is such a common problem with couples married and dating, young and old couples. It’s important to handle this early on so that it doesn’t poison a relationship long term and potentially destroy it.

Here is relationship advice and some suggestions to get you going:

  • Find out more about his history and why he reacts the way he does. Perhaps there was an emotional trauma that’s interfering in your relationship.
  • While privacy is important for individuals, it is helpful to assure your partner that there is nothing to worry about by being open with your communications. Why not voluntarily show him your email or text messages or phone calls. Making him feel secure and safe is priority.

If you have issues with showing him your private information this may be symptomatic of other issues in the relationship. Because, you want to make him feel safe and make him feel he is the priority. And if this doesn’t make him feel better then he may benefit from marriage counseling. It’s important to understand that you are not his past experiences.

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