Becoming parents is the ultimate bond that can form between two people. This tiny new person binds you forever to your partner and takes your relationship to a whole new level.
Kids bring such joy into their parents’ lives and take you from being a couple to being a family.
Parenthood is a journey that you and your partner will figure out along the way. Even though you never truly know how you will be as a parent, you have been shaped and influenced by your upbringing and your own parents.
One result of this is that two people in a relationship bring with them their background as the basis for their own parenting style.
Since it is unlikely that you and your partner were brought up in exactly the same way (not possible as you have a different set of parents and circumstances), you are likely to disagree on certain parenting issues that tend to crop up in day-to-day life.
For example, your partner has a very laidback and relaxed parenting style, while you tend to worry a lot more. You will tend to annoy each other over the small things, as your general attitudes are different. These attitudes are generally a reflection of how your parents brought you up.
How do you meet halfway on things that are so ingrained in you both?
The answer is to work on starting afresh and developing your own new parenting style that is a combination of your individual preferences. I’m not saying that this will be easy but like everything in life and relationships, it requires a lot of hard work.
It is inevitable that you will always have areas along your wonderful parenting journey that you disagree on – the rule for this is: never argue about them in front of the kids. Always present a united front. This will make for a happier marriage, more secure kids, and a harmonious family life.
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