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The perfect wedding is important. But how about living happily ever after?
It’s easy to get swept away with the details of wedding planning. Between the endless choices for invitations, bridesmaid dresses, flowers, table settings—the last thing on your mind is counseling with your future spouse.
But hear me out.
Counseling should be a top priority. Here’s why.
It’s exciting to head on a life journey with your future spouse but you probably wouldn’t get in the car for a drive to an unfamiliar destination without your trusty navigation system. The same goes for marriage. A roadmap helps you navigate through the rough areas that inevitably come with marriage. These issues are usually related to communication, money, anger, and intimacy.
Why set yourself up to become another statistic? More than 50% of US marriages fail, but that doesn’t mean you have to be one of them. Research shows that couples who invest in premarital counseling reduce their chance of divorce by 31%.
We have worked with hundreds of couples just like you. We have also trained military couples on premarital/marital counseling and how to prevent and cope with the most common issues that come up in these relationships.
A successful relationship takes work. You will want to have a first aid kit at your convenience. Not necessarily to use today, just to help you always feel prepared.
Why Do I Need Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling is a specialized type of therapy benefitting couples considering marriage. Unlike couple’s therapy, which usually takes place when there’s a problem, premarital counseling is about learning ways to prevent conflict and issues from escalating. Premarital counseling help to ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy relationship — giving you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage.”
Even the happiest couples experience stress and conflict, and it’s important to learn how to deal with these issues constructively as you prepare for a lifetime together. The goal of premarital counseling is to identify and address any areas of conflict in your relationship and teach partners effective strategies for discussing and resolving issues.
Benefits of Premarital Counseling
Premarital counseling is about discussing common issues that come up with couples such as: communication, anger, money, physical and emotional intimacy and learning how to handle conflict as a couple. Couples usually explore these questions; “are we sharing your finances or splitting expenses? Are we going to have a pre-nuptial agreement? How do we want to handle debt? How many children do we want to have and where do we want to live?”
I have worked with partners to help identify areas that may cause conflict in their relationship later on such as; child-rearing methods, family dynamics etc. The goal is to help couples work through these issues in the early stages in the relationship. Partners often develop communication and conflict resolution skills and address fears they might have about marriage. We all need to learn the skills to maintain an intimate, mutually nurturing relationship.
What to Expect in a Premarital Session
Couples discuss issues together and explore ways to cope and handle potential challenges they may develop over the course of their marriage. Premarital counseling can be positive because of the commitment each partner demonstrates towards improving and strengthening their relationship.
Premarital counseling differs depending on your needs. Some couples choose to meet over 1-3 sessions. Others may prefer to participate for longer. Couples may also choose to meet with the therapist individually for a few sessions which helps them to speak more openly about their concerns and goals for their relationship.
I work with couples who seek to bring their analytical and creative skills to the art of building a life together. Many of our engaged couples say their premarital counseling time is meaningful and gives each partner an opportunity to safely discuss important issues to them.
Interested in Premarital Counseling? Call 917-273-8836 or contact us.
Premarital Self Study Program for Couples: self-study audio program for couples called the “Ultimate Relationship Virtual Program.”
This self-help audio program can transform your relationship through a combination of psycho-education, proactive skills and proven techniques. From the comfort of your home or car, or even while exercising, you can use this self-help audio tool kit to make immediate, positive changes in your relationship. You can learn how to effectively navigate and manage the five most common issues that arise in relationships: communication, anger, money, physical and emotional intimacy.