If you’ve been seeing each other seriously for a long time, have the talk. If you’re in a committed, long-term relationship, you must have the talk – the gender roles talk.
This scenario could lead to communication cross-talk, and no couple needs that!
Each of us comes into a relationship with our entire past, including experiences, norms, assumptions and rules that can differ tremendously, even between people that have lives that, on the surface, seem quite similar.
If he’s not taking out the trash, it could be that he didn’t know that you assumed it was “his job”. If she doesn’t have dinner on the table at six o’clock sharp, it could be because she grew up and a perfectly decent home – one where there was no particular person appointed to restaurant duty.
Assumptions are dangerous in any relationship, be it a working, neighborly or a loving relationship – all the more so when you’re living together. The day-to-day issues that can build up when one feels his/her needs aren’t being met, that his/her emotions are being ignored or, even worse, if she/he feels taken advantage of are highly destructive.
So please, sit down, pen and paper in hand if necessary, and invest in your future collective happiness. What you decide is up to the two of you and all’s fair so long as you both come out smiling.
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