First answer that would come to mind (if you’re already in a relationship), would be your partner/spouse, right?
Even if your partner is the partner of your dreams and is the person you are closest to in the world, there is still one other person that you need to love the most.
This person is not your mother, your father, your sister or your pet cat; this person is none other than YOU.
How can you expect a loving relationship to grow from strength to strength if you don’t love yourself first and foremost?
I’m not talking about narcissistic love, but loving who you are as a person and being comfortable in your own skin.
There is a delicate balance in every relationship between putting yourself first and putting your partner’s needs before your own.
The rule is this for a healthy relationship: Couples should always put each other first as long as in doing so, they are not compromising themselves in any way.
What does this mean in everyday life?
This means that for a relationship to grow, both partners should know which things are most important to each other and should make every effort to honor, respect and act on these things. Even if you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on everything, make sure to compromise and meet halfway. This only works if both partners are willing to do so.
Remember though that compromise does NOT mean compromising yourself.
Never compromise yourself, your values and your morals, in any way whatsoever, even for your partner.
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