Have you felt like each time you try to have a conversation it becomes an argument?  Funny thing about anger…it will play with the mind and turn an innocent conversation into a combat zone.  Even a touch of anger can make your loving partner seem like an enemy.

How does it manage to do this?

Anger will transform a common conversation into an attack and cause deeper emotions to be expressed as comments that start squabbles. It will morph, “When you do not help me with the housework, I feel overwhelmed and unappreciated,” into the accusatory, “You never do anything to help out around here!”

Which statement would encourage your partner to take out the trash?

You may not be able to banish anger from your life, but you can loosen its grip on your conversations by following these tips:

  1. Cool down your rage by taking a breather or a time out from your conversation.
  2. Remove accusatory phrases such as, “You don’t appreciate me anymore,” from your conversations.
  3. Pinpoint the source of your anger with phrases such as, “When you go on weekly shopping sprees, I feel stressed and uncertain about our financial future.”
  4. Help your partner understand how he or she might reverse your anger.

If you try these steps and find that you’re still having difficulty diffusing the anger, you can find even more helpful solutions in the Online Relationship Tool kit. This E-Course will teach you and your partner how to address anger in a more constructive and healthy way and the only appointments you need to schedule are the ones with you and time to go through the material.

The Online Couples Tool Kit is based on decades of professional experience in helping couples resolve difficult problems.  We are happy to make it available in a more convenient package that can be delivered right in your home.  If this sounds like the right solution with where your relationship is right now, you can start the Online Couples Tool Kit from your email today.

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